Being the Perfect Guest

Whether you are beginning the interview process or already have your own corner office, knowing the ins and outs of dining etiquette is a must. Remember that dining for business is always an opportunity for you to reaffirm your professionalism image and demonstrate perfect etiquette. Let’s save the nuts and bolts of navigating the table setting for another blog, and focus today on the specific responsibilities we have when we are the invited guests to a business meal.

• Your first responsibility. Above all else, BE ON TIME! Do you know exactly where the restaurant is? How long will it take to get there? In rush hour? Do you know where to park? What about valet service? This is information that you need to find out BEFORE the meal.
• Research ahead. Nothing is more annoying than dining with someone who can’t decide what to order. Every reputable restaurant has a website these days so do some reconnaissance ahead of time! Having a good idea of what you’d like to order in advance allows you to appear confidently decisive at the restaurant.
• Order Well. Have the sensitivity to think about cost when you are not paying. Don’t order the most expensive item on the menu unless your host has specifically recommended it to you. Avoid anything that is messy, can splatter, or is greasy. If possible, order something you can cut with your fork. Also, don’t be afraid to try new things. If your host takes you to a nice Italian restaurant, don’t insult them by ordering a hamburger.
• Don’t be high maintenance. Everyone has their likes and dislikes; however, there’s no need to broadcast your own pickiness. If you have a food allergy or a specific diet restriction (vegan, diabetic), quietly mention it to the waiter. Yet another reason to check out the menu in advance! Being high maintenance sends a message to your host (and others that you’re dining with) that you’ll be high maintenance in the office as well.
• Converse. Duh. This seems obvious, but is important for a variety of reasons. If nothing else, leaving the responsibility of talking to the host will mess with the pace of the meal. If they’re constantly talking, they’ll be finishing their first course while you’re waiting for dessert. Keeping a good flow of conversation is the responsibility of both the host and the guest. A good tip: Depending on what industry you are in, browse the online versions of the New York Times or the Wall Street Journal and brush up on current events. These two periodicals (or one more suited to your career) will definitely provide good topics for conversation.
• Compliment the host. “Thank you for choosing such a great restaurant!” or “What great service!” are pleasantries that indicate your appreciation for the event. After the meal, remember to thank three times for maximum impact. 1) Verbally as you are leaving, 2) in an e-mail upon returning to your office, and (here's the clincher) 3) again by handwritten note on nice card stock.

Stayed tuned for our next blog on how to be the perfect host!